Marriage Clarity.
Four questions, asked one at a time. They take what's spinning in your head and put it on paper. The answer to "should I get a divorce?" usually isn't found in question one. It's found in the order you answer them.
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What's wrong?
Without editing, list every complaint, grievance, frustration, or source of unhappiness you associate with your marriage right now. Get it all on paper. Don't sort it yet.
Marriage problem or life problem?
Re-read what you wrote. For each item, ask: would this be different if my partner were a different person, or would it follow me into any relationship? Group your answers honestly.
Have youtried?
A genuine repair attempt has five conditions. Which of these are honestly true for your marriage right now?
Where are you in the loop?
On a scale from 1 to 10, where 1 is "I'm certain we can repair this" and 10 is "I'm certain I need to leave," where are you right now? Not last week. Right now.
In one sentence, what does the stay-voice tell you at its most convincing?
In one sentence, what does the leave-voice tell you at its most convincing?
Your clarity snapshot
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