Vetted referral paths.
Seven places to find the kind of professional that fits where you are. The directories are the official ones the field uses; we put them in one place so you don't have to dig.
Online-Therapy.com (CBT-based)
A structured, CBT-based online platform with a licensed therapist, worksheets, journaling, and message-based support between sessions. Useful when scheduling, geography, or the privacy of an office visit makes in-person care hard. Work it as the individual track alongside a couples therapist, or as the standalone individual track if that's what fits.
Discernment counseling
For couples where one or both partners is unsure whether to work on the marriage. Typically 1–5 sessions; produces a clear three-path decision (work on it, separate, or end it). Not couples therapy. The right place to start when commitment is mixed.
EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) — ICEEFT
Sue Johnson's attachment-based model. Strongest evidence base for couples whose dominant complaint is disconnection, withdrawal, or emotional distance. The directory at ICEEFT lists certified clinicians.
Gottman Method — Gottman Referral Network
The most extensively researched behavioral approach to couples work. Best fit when the marriage is committed but the day-to-day patterns (communication, conflict, parenting differences) are eroding the connection. Look for Levels 1–3 certification.
Psychology Today therapist directory
When one or both partners is carrying significant individual distress (depression, trauma, addiction, anxiety), individual therapy comes first. Psychology Today's directory lets you filter by insurance, modality, and identity.
Certified Divorce Financial Analysts (CDFA)
A CDFA models the financial impact of divorce scenarios before you commit to any path: asset division, support, taxes, retirement, college costs. Not a substitute for a family-law attorney, but the right complement when assets are non-trivial. FINRA's public records site verifies credentials.
If you are not safe
This book and these tools are not appropriate for relationships that involve abuse, coercive control, or physical danger. The line between "hard marriage" and "unsafe situation" is sometimes unclear from the inside. The hotline is confidential and can help you sort it.
Not legal or medical advice. Reward Reset Publishing is not affiliated with ICEEFT, the Gottman Institute, FINRA, the Institute for Divorce Financial Analysts, or any individual practitioner listed via these directories. Verify credentials and fit independently before engaging any professional. Insurance, jurisdiction, and clinical training all matter and vary by directory entry.