A
Boundary Collapse.
Cannot have a separate self once the baby is here. Sleep, hobbies, partner-time get traded for proximity to the baby. Saying yes to everything baby-shaped feels safer than letting anyone else hold any part of it.
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Disappearing into the role since the baby arrived?
There are three codependency patterns activated by parenthood. This 5-minute checklist asks fifteen specific questions to name which one is running yours.
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Five short prompts per pattern. See your read in 5 minutes.
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What's inside
Which pattern is running yours?
Codependent parenting rarely looks like one big extreme behavior. It looks like one of three patterns running underneath the small daily decisions. The checklist asks fifteen specific questions to surface which one is loudest in your house right now.
B
The Control Trap.
Manages everyone else's involvement with the baby. Partners get coached, in-laws get redirected, schedules get optimized to a level only one person can sustain. The cost is exhaustion and a partner who quietly stops trying.
C
Self-Erasure.
Disappears into the role. Old hobbies, old friendships, old aspirations recede until only the parent role is left. There is no protest in this. The cost shows up later, in a self that is hard to recover.
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The book gave you the language. The 90-Day Codependency Reset gives you the day-by-day. It packages the plan from chapter 14 as a printable tracker so the work stops living in your head and starts showing up on a date on the calendar.
- 1.Phase 1, Days 1–30: Awareness. Observe the pattern without changing it. Three-question evening journal, weekly review, milestone you can name out loud by day 30.
- 2.Phase 2, Days 31–60: Interruption. Run the NIBC protocol across child, partner, and extended-family triggers. One trigger per week. Weekly partner check-in begins.
- 3.Phase 3, Days 61–90: Integration. Conscious-parenting commitments, boundary audits, and support architecture practice, until the new defaults feel less effortful.
Plus the Hard Days protocol for spike days, the 90-day calendar setup, and check-boxes for every move so the tracker also functions as a record. ~30-page printable PDF.
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